Monday, March 13, 2006

Update 3/11/06

Dear Family & Friends,
Passing on an important update on Gerry and how their family is doing (already coming up on 2 years post-accident). Lori continues to carry their family through each day with God's help, and her strength and faith continue to inspire me and everyone who knows them. Thank you for continuing to keep them in your prayers.

Gina Gronlund

(The picture was taken last Thanksgiving. Clockwise from top: Gerry, Tatania, Anessa, Polina, and, center, Lori.)


Dear Family and Friends,

I never got around to getting Christmas cards sent out this past year. I am touched by the warm response from many, many who sent cards or called to inquire what was going on with our family. Many others have requested I provide an update. This is my attempt to provide a recap of what’s currently going on two years post-accident.

Gerard is attending a free Brain Injury Program in San Diego through the Continuing Education Department of the Mesa College District. We commute twice a week to south San Diego. Gerry is highly motivated and eager to attend. This is proving to be the best rehabilitation he has encountered. Basically, he has two instructors: a speech therapist and a neuro-physiologist. Linda the speech therapist has taken a special interest in Gerard and offers to meet with him privately for a ½ hour prior to his class. She states that in all of her 15+ years she has never seen anyone improve at this rate, at this stage of recovery. Gerard began last September very confused, disoriented with severe aphasia (word finding difficulties). I have been told that aphasia patients may improve but rarely fully recover. Praise God that at the end of the quarter Gerard has been transferred out of all of his aphasia classes. She is constantly re-testing and evaluating him because “he is going so fast.” God has shown Himself gracious in this aspect. Gerard’s speech is rather smooth, and his voice tone is better (still not exactly the same, but not the gravely sounds that elicits stares). Linda encourages, “whatever you are doing at home, keep it up because it is obviously working.”

Gerard has begun vision therapy in San Diego once a week. He is calmer, better able to control his anger (there are still some outbursts, but better). Mostly, his reasoning and memory ability is improving. He now begins to anticipate, plan, express his desires and is concerned for others. Next, we need to work on self-initiation, scheduling, reasonableness, and time management. He is finally off all medications and we noticed a big step upwards, as if the fog lifted. Many have commented that Ger seems more peaceful. Gerard still requires supervision: he is not necessarily a threat of danger any longer, but he doesn’t self initiate and will sit the entire time I am gone. I believe Ger is still healing and will continue to improve with this needed therapy.

Additionally, Dr. Ron Higuera, a friend at church, who conducts ATC therapy which stretches the muscles, is working with Ger and has lessened the constant pain Ger experiences in his neck and left foot. These are the same problems that we spent days in the hospital attempting to resolve with no success. Ron affirms that Ger is still in an awful lot of physical pain, which certainly affects his disposition. Ger rarely complains, however, stating “you just have to suck it up; it is what it is.” Ron has always been willing to help but initially Ger wouldn’t allow Ron to touch him because the stretching itself hurts, causing a lot of pain to bound muscles and tendons. Pray that Ger will continue to put himself through these painful stretches in order to experience permanent relief.

We have been surviving off of unemployment, savings and occasional gifts. To date this has allowed me to stay home. Daily, we all go to Belinda’s home and school together. Surprisingly, home schooling has proved beneficial to Gerry. He sits and does school right along with the children; when they do math drills, he does math drills. Sometimes he just listens, but this is a form of indirect therapy where he is not “on” all the time. He especially enjoys Bible class, (Machen’s commentary on the Catechism), Worldview and Spanish classes. He often interjects appropriately and is good about correcting our mispronunciations in Spanish. It seems as if his brain is loading back up.

My desire is to educate my girls and witness God’s hand in healing Gerard. I have been preparing for and teaching several classes and I am enjoying every minute. Working alongside Belinda has been my therapy. I’m grateful that she allows me to sneak away 2 days a week to take Ger to therapy/TBI school. I couldn’t do it without her. Pray that God would continue to bless her and her efforts! She does a wonderful job, is exceedingly patient, and is constantly faithful. What a godly example of self-sacrificing friendship! We have noticed a calmness the past several months and the girls are all doing quite well at school, benefiting from the structure and extra attention.

Finally, almost 2 years after the accident (3/17), our family is experiencing a full but more peaceful schedule. I’m realizing how much the girls need my attention “after the storm” and desire this season of “normalcy”. As most Moms know, I am working harder than ever. I have a passion to redeem the time and feel a sense of urgency because I don’t know for how long this season of staying home will last. Partly because of what has transpired in our lives, it is of utmost importance to me to instruct my children in good Biblical doctrine to ensure they have a firm foundation. Apart from God, nothing makes sense. Knowing God is central. It has been everything to me. My zeal is purposely to provide for them the same foundation so that they can understand what has transpired from “God’s perspective.” Knowing Him truly is our only hope.

Yet as we look to the future, our financial situation needs to be addressed. This month the unemployment benefits terminate and we have to evaluate how far our limited savings will take us. Please pray. Publicly, I must give God praise for random anonymous gifts that just “appear in the mail” and checks here and there from distant friends. This, along with savings, has been carrying us along farther than I ever dreamed possible. God has been good to our family and when people question me, “How are you making it?” I can truly state, “It doesn’t add up, but it is GOD’s economy.”

One alternative would be to seek part time employment again. However, it is difficult to see how I could continue to devote as much time to the care of Gerry and the girls as I have been doing over the past months, and I am reluctant to return to the turmoil that such a change would entail. My elders have encouraged me therefore to inquire if there be those who would be able and willing to assist us with monthly support for a limited season, perhaps the next two years. While I am not technically a widow, they believe that I fall under the category of “widows and orphans” and deem this a true diaconal need. I confess that I struggle with this option mostly because it is difficult to ask for help. Yet I am reminded of the Scripture, “You have not because you ask not.” So humbly I appeal to those whom God has gifted to determine if this be God’s will for this season in our family. The shortfall every month is $1,300. It is not anticipated that this will come from one source but rather any combination of sources: from church’s diaconal funds, a one-time gifts or individual monthly donations, whether large or small. You can send donations directly to us or, if you wish a tax deduction, you can send gifts to Grace Presbyterian Church Fallbrook, PO Box 1749, Fallbrook, CA 92088, designated for the diaconal needs of the Marinuccis.

Please pray for wisdom and direction. I’m not afraid of work but I desire to pour my efforts into doing something that will have a lasting impact for His kingdom and that will benefit my entire family. I know that I will make my plans, but He will direct my steps. He has been faithful all along. Thanks in advance for your prayers and consideration.

Lovingly in His Service.

Gerard, Lori, Anessa, Polina and Tatiana Marinucci




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